The #1 secret daydream of an erotic hypnotist
FAQ:
I want to be hypnotized but I can’t be hypnotized. Can you hypnotize me anyway?
What most people don’t know is that hypnosis is a voluntary, consensual activity, even if it is not a conscious choice. At some level, you must choose to participate or NOT participate in entering an altered state of awareness to get the achieved result (not necessarily the desired outcome). Here is a link to a good, and funny, video that discusses why some folks “can’t be hypnotized”.
Q: Can you hypnotize me to do something I don’t want to do? I want to be able to give a blow job but every time I think I am ready to, I want to gag when I attempt it.
Yes and no. When it comes to making someone do what they normally would not do is the difference between hypnosis, and brainwashing. In order to make someone do something that is in deep violation or conflict with their personal values (robbery, murder, promiscuity, etc), you have to FIRST change their fundamental value system and those reference points and it can take months of intense, isolated, and controlled environment efforts to accomplish that. Stockholm syndrome is an example of how brainwashing is accomplished.
Can hypnosis help in this case? The answer is maybe and that depends on why you are having such an extreme resistance to it. The solution lies in identifying the actual problem, first. Erotic hypnosis is still hypnosis at its core. It can help but it can never harm because you must participate and allow yourself to enter hypnotic trance. The hypnotist, or erotic hypnotist, only helps facilitate the process for you.
Q: How did you become an erotic hypnotist?
Before I did this, the world was a different place.
I was a sensual female dominant but I was learning a painful lesson in market trends and realizing that being successful in the professional BDSM circuit tended to (and still does) favor extremes in presentation, not common definitions of pretty, or any focus on mental health. Amazon tall or Lilliput small, extreme tattooing and piercing or no hair anywhere, at all. Big Momma size women or High School Mean Girl (White and Blonde, of course) are typically the most easily marketed.
For example, being an extremely desirable female because you are very pretty and have a great figure by common definitions, will not make you a successful, professional female dominatrix, regardless of race factors. In fact, unless you are have a great marketing team behind you and a genuine lack of use for men, chances are that you will get passed over in preference for those very types of women that is not the standard public definition of beautiful, or desirable.
These are the generic types that I have seen that typically do well as a professional dominatrix in a commercial dungeon.
The minds of male clients for female professional dominatrices, back in the early days, remain a mystery to most of us. LOL. Times change and YMMV, of course.
I let go of trying to make this a successful profession and leaned into just enjoying myself.
It would be many years later that I finally decided to stop trying to be what was “commercially popular” and just leaned in to who I was most comfortable being. I am a sensual, erotic, and positive femdom who is not a sadist, and takes all my pleasure in sharing an experience with them, pain optional. It was at this point, that I decided to continue doing this because I enjoyed it and find other, more financially stable ways to manage my life. I found a lover who was also a submissive fetishist and spent the next 7 years of my life learning alot about how challenging it is to find a romantic partner to build a life with that is also sexually compatible in the less typical ways we generally handle our adult relations.
The lover is gone. I am still kinky. I am also aware that a dog will eat you out of house and home with no effort to show a return on your investment, if you let him. Men, and dogs, are at their best when they have jobs to do that have meaning for them that also merit respect from you. My dog wants to do a meaningful job of being a dog as part of the household. I can see it. His intentions are good. Am I still looking for a life companion? We always are, everyone of us. Anyone who says otherwise is lying, or deeply broken. The difference is that if my dog shows better character than the person asking for my attention, the dog will win, every time.
It was after kink became mainstream on the internet that hypnosis as a fetish became one of the new thrill rides in BDSM.
I won’t lie. When it first appeared in the BDSM circuits, I was more than a little dismissive. How on earth would anyone learn and practice something so powerful and life changing in less than a few hours with the sole purpose of playing games? It seemed cheap and insulting to the bastion of hypnosis practitioners who were trying to raise the practice above the eternal supply of cheap jokes and Hollywood comedy routines. I was not impressed and I was seriously wondering if I wanted to continue on with BDSM because this had become the breaking point of my tolerance after the “My kink is not your kink so don’t judge my refusal to use common sense and not participate in strangulation play or alcohol enemas!” wars.
When you love something and you see other folks supporting the cheapening of it, it breaks your heart and makes you want to walk away entirely. This all meant something to me and clearly, it meant more to me than to the new waves of people entering the fray. I was hamstrung.
Doctors make the worst patients.
It took some time but I finally stopped taking myself seriously and began to reframe for myself what this experience could be that was neither a stiff collar therapeutic session nor a cheap party game for kinksters.
I realized that there was a world of enhancement and/or improvement available to anyone’s experience if this really was an issue of mental blocks and resistance. I, also, had to become very honest with myself and admit that I was exactly the kind of candidate for hypnosis that benefited most from it but every professional hypnotist hated dealing with. The over-analytical, over-developed critical thinking function client who had higher standards for (my) care providers than NASA quality control before a launch. In short, like a doctor in the hospital bed instead of alongside it, I made the most difficult kind of patient.
What does an erotic hypnotist say? If you can’t beat them, hypnotize them!
I gave it alot of serious consideration from a professional’s point of view and then turned it backwards and looked at it from a kinkster’s point of view. When I was able to find something valuable in offering this in ways that made sense to me, I decided to take the plunge and started taking phone calls for hypnofetish. This turned the entire thing upside down as I began to experience the differences between people’s expectations (spoken and unspoken) from each other. In combination with that, I was also having my own preconceptions about what they would want and how to shape their experiences challenged.
It is not that I take any of this less seriously. It is very much that I take myself less seriously and this new approach allows for the expansion of joy, pleasure and playfulness in both my practice and the recipients experience.
Erotic hypnotism, is the most amazing kind of hypnosis.
Everything is better when we choose to participate in something and embrace the entire experience for all the feelings and sensations it can offer. I am still learning and this process often feels like Loch Ness. Diving into a bottomless dark while you have to feel around for any information that isn’t easily found or seen.
See you in your daydreams!
XO, Samois
